What I want from a leader?

What I want from a LeaderA friend of mine posted one of those pictures on Facebook with a beautiful picture and some inspirational words or a quote.  You know the kind.  You see them all the time, right?  Well, for some reason this “feel good picture” got me thinking about leadership and more specifically, “What would I want from a leader?”  Have you ever wondered what the ideal leader would look like?  How they would act?

I don’t know about you, but one of the most important qualities that I want from a leader is their commitment to hold me and the rest of the team to a higher standard than we ever thought was possible.  I want a leader that will push us to achieve more and get the best out of us.

In some ways, I want a leader that is better than we are.  Maybe they are more experienced or they have more enthusiasm than we do or they simply are more dedicated to the success of the group than we are.  In other words, there is a quality in the leader that we can emulate.

I want from a leader …

… someone who is willing to go first and lead us into battle if need be.  They have the courage to step out from the crowd and take on the impossible challenge.  Their bold actions inspire us to follow their example.

I want from a leader…

… a person who recognizes the value of their followers and supports our efforts even when they may end in defeat.  The leader knows that failure is a learning opportunity and doesn’t get caught up in the emotions.  A leader helps us learn from our mistakes and encourages us to do better next time.

I want from a leader…

… the ability and conviction to hold us to a higher standard.  The leader expects great things from us and we rise to the challenge.

I want from a leader…


… someone that values the different roles that make up a team and recognizes that while not everyone will be the best, we can all contribute and grow into our potential.

Do you want these things from your leader?  I bet you do.

Now, here is the tricky part…

Aren’t we all our own leader?

What if we applied these same attributes to how we LEAD our own life?

Will you be perfect, probably not.  No leader is perfect… but they can always get better.

Decide today that you will lead.
Your family.
Your friends.
Your career.
What do you want from a leader … of your life?


How To “5Star Goal Setting & Getting”

5 star Goal Setting and GettingI wrote an article recently about “5 Star Goal Setting & Getting” as a guest blogger over on gps-SpeakerMarketing.com (check it out) but I reserved the ideas that follow for my own readers.  Take a look at the ideas below and leave a comment to tell me if you think they will take your goal setting (and getting) to a whole new level !

1) Start small when Goal Setting.

It is more important to develop the habit of goal setting and getting than it is to go for the biggest goal you can imagine.  Certainly there is some excitement when you “reach for the brass ring” but setting and achieving goals will give you the confidence to actually tackle your larger goals.

In addition, smaller goals can lead to bigger goals.  You might find that once you meet a certain goal that the larger goal no longer excites you and you can make adjustments along the way.

2) Grow your goals.

Build on your successes and learn from your failures.  As you strive to expand your goals, the skills you learn on smaller goals will help you on the way to bigger and bigger goals.

3) Celebrate and enjoy your success.

Goal setting adds a clear cut sense of a black and white to what is usually a long road of gray.  Life is a journey and we often forget to celebrate our accomplishments when we are caught up in the process and focused on the goal on the horizon.

Finally, rely on motivation, not self-discipline.

A good goal is exciting when you set it.  You can envision it happening and it fills you with anticipation of its completion.  The problem is most people do not hold themselves to that standard of motivation and they set goals that do not get them excited.

Think about it …

If your goal does not motivate you now, how likely is it that your motivation is going to carry you all the way to completion?  Self-discipline is a wonderful thing, but it is a limited resource and if you start using it up right from the start, there won’t be enough “gas in the tank” to get you to your destination.  Save your self-discipline for the times along the way when you encounter stumbling blocks or obstacles and have to put in an extra effort.

Set your first goal … and go for it !

Goal Setting Bonus !

As an added bonus, I’ve created a downloadable free pdf 5 Star-GoalSetting-handout that I use for my 5Star Goal Setting & Getting workshops.  (Right-click highlighted text in the previous sentence and select “Save As” to download the pdf worksheet to your computer).  If you want to learn more about what each star represents, be sure to read my guest blogger article over at gps-speakermarketing.com/goal-setting/.