2012 = The Year You Make It Happen !

2012 Make It HappenI have designed a notecard (graphic used is shown to the right) to help inspire my friends and professional associates to achieve greatness in 2012.  

I know you have it in you … you just need to “Make It Happen”.  

I am in the process of uploading a PDF version of the card to this webpage so you can print them out and give them to your friends as well.  (Check back often or subscribe to this blog for updates.)

You might be interested to know ….
There were more than a few Transderivational Wording concepts that went into the title of this card.   [FYI – TW concepts are covered in my Mindset Advantage Program.]

What do I mean?
Transderivation is the process where our mind converts words we read or hear into concepts / memories / programming in our mind.  This is both a conscious and subconscious process and it is one of the ways that our minds were programmed through our whole life.  

Let me explain how it applies to this card by showing you some of the alternative titles I considered . . .

1) “The Year I Make It Happen”… when we read something, we take in the words in at least two ways, as the first person saying the words and as if someone else was saying the words to us (second person).  While this phrase would be inspirational for the reader in first person since they would be telling themselves that they will make it happen, the second person perspective takes the “locus of control” outside of the reader and puts it in the hands of the original author.  This second person perspective disempowers the reader since they are not involved in “making it happen”.  The choice of whether first or second person is appropriate for a particular sentence is all handled subconsciously but both meanings receive consideration in the brain, even after a “decision” on the meaning has been given to the conscious mind.

2) “The Year We Make It Happen” … the use of “We” gives the impression of teamwork (a positive) but can be limited if the reader does not feel that their contribution to the team’s success will have an impact on the final results.  The other problem with this phrasing is that it also reduces the readers responsibility for creating results for themselves.  It is too general and subconsciously it lets the reader “off the hook” to make it happen in their life in 2012.

3) “Make IT Happen” … The use of the word “it” is purposely vague.  “It” can be anything, which gives the reader the opportunity to insert their own goal into the meaning as they read the phrase.  “It” is also singular, which is important, since it indicates that a Focus and Clarity of Purpose is needed.

There are other meanings built into the card … but I will leave them to you to discover now that you have been introduced to the concept of Transderivational Wording (TW).

Suffice it to say that all of the meanings indicate that 2012 will be a fantastic year !

To all your success !

d.Mark “Dave” Wheeler

Success Mindset featuring Will Smith

This video compilation contains some excellent concepts about what it takes to be successful from the mind of Will Smith.

When I see someone recommend an online video that is more than 9 minutes long, I often wonder if it will be worth my time … this one is definitely worth your time !

Enjoy … and then leave a comment below  !

Me … of the Future !

Are you ready for tomorrow?How would you organize your day if, at the end of day, you were to hand over each and every project to someone new?
 
I began thinking about that and realized that 1) I would be much more organized so that the other person could “hit the ground running” and 2) I would not worry quite as much about how they would do the job, since it was out of my hands.
 
Now, what if that person you are handing it off to … was yourself ?
 
Sort of you… in the future.
 
Clearly, you can still apply many of the same lines of thinking. It would be great to be more organized and certainly you (“future you”) would be more productive since there would be less time spent “figuring things out”.
 
Why don’t we do this?
 
 

How to BE Superman

After the storm came through this past weekend and took away our power (and heat), I had plenty of “quiet time” to think … and this strange idea popped into my head…

“What if Superman’s powers were within the grasp of every man, woman and child?”

Think about it…

He has super speed, super hearing, super eyesight, X-ray vision, heat vision, super strength, indestructible and is able to fly.  As the TV show says… “More powerful than a locomotive… able to bend steel in his bare hands … able to leap tall buildings in a single bound”.

Here is an excerpt of an interview with the “Man of Steel”….

Interviewer:  I’ve always been curious about the true nature of your Super powers?  Let’s start with “Super Hearing” . . .
S-man:  Well, to be honest, it is actually “Super Listening”.  Ask any lady what she wants in a relationship and she will tell you that a guy who really listens is a “Superman”.  It’s not that hard really and I’m surprised that more men don’t do it, especially since you just need to pay attention and focus on the deeper meaning behind their words.

Interviewer:  Since you mentioned “focus”, I guess the next logical power would be your heat vision…. 
S-man:  My vision’s not so much physically hot, as it is psychologically.  Focusing intently on someone else can really turn up the heat in any relationship or draw them deeper into the conversation.  I’ve been told that when people are talking to me “it is like they are the only other person in the room” … I like that idea but I need to credit Phil Ripperger with that quote.  It was actually about his Dad, “DJ” John Ripperger, at his funeral service.  John definitely had the power too and I’m glad that I had the opportunity to know him.

Interviewer:  I’m guessing that you can’t really see farther than normal, i.e. Super Eyesight? 
S-man:  My eyesight is about 20/40 so, yes, I can see farther than normal … thanks to an excellent laser surgery on my eyes.  The glasses that Clark Kent wears were actually needed prior to the operation… oh, I probably should not have mentioned Clark.

Interviewer:  What about Xray Vision?

S-man:  This is actually a combination of active listening skills and focusing on what people are saying.  In other words, I can see what is going on “behind the scenes” and this is often assumed to be Xray vision.  Oh, by the way, those are very nice pink thong panties you have on today… just kidding.

Interviewer:  I can see where this is going, so I have to ask… Super Strength? 
S-man:  I am very strong … want to feel my bicep?  Seriously, I work out, but I’m no body builder.  I prefer to think that my real strength is my character.  I am most proud of my integrity and ability to stick to the values that were instilled in me by John and Martha Kent .. oh shoot, I should not have mentioned them.  I guess super-secret keeping is not one of my strengths !

Interviewer:  So the whole “Bend steel in your bare hands” is just bullshit, right?

S-man:  No, not completely.  Growing up, I used to put up and fix barbed wire fences around the Kent farm … darn, there I go again … and I could pretty easily bend the wire… which is made of steel.  The marketing guys kind of ran with the idea and stretched the concept a little.  Everyone assumes that “bending steel” means a bar of steel, but steel comes in many shapes and sizes.  I can do a number on one of those old steel cans … want to see?

Interviewer:  No thanks.  How did you develop the reputation for being “Indestructable”?
S-man:  Funny story… I was doing a ride-along with a SWAT team … or more accurately, Clark Kent was… I guess my cover is blown … and when they hit the crack house there were bullets flying everywhere and I took a couple right in the chest.  Thank goodness I had on a bullet proof vest … but they still hurt like heck!  After that the marketing folks just had a field day with that story.

By the way, I like Jeff Dunham’s joke with his puppet super-hero Super D.  “You can stop a bullet?”  “Yes… once.”  As you can imagine, I’m not stepping in the way of too many bullets these days.

On a more serious note, I am not above “taking a bullet” metaphorically.  I’ve often “taken one for the team” and, in relationships, this “power” if you want to call it that, really shows the other person how important they are when you set the relationship above how you will look in public.  Do you think I worry about how I look to others? Come on… I wear blue tights and a cape in public !

Interviewer:  Now I get it … how is that you have “Super Speed”?
S-man:  I am able to get things done much quicker than others and many people think that I do the impossible.  Truthfully, it’s nothing crazy like “being born under a red sun”, I just prepare more thoroughly and work harder than most.  The hard work is rarely seen (as is always the case for successful people) while the results seem to happen “instantly”. 

You seem skeptical… What me to show you?  I will run around the building in a blink of an eye… ready, go.  Want to see it again?  It is an old joke… but I still get a kick out of it.

Interviewer:  Finally, what about your “Ability to Fly”?
S-man:  Of course I can fly.  I am a frequent flyer on JetBlue, American Airlines and Continental.  I try to say away from Delta / Northwest… they have not impressed me since the merger.  What were you expecting, that I would take you in my arms and fly off into the sunset?  Actually, I do have two tickets on the next flight to Paris … interested?

Interviewer:  Any final words for our readers?
S-man:  I guess the point is that we can all be a “Super Man” (or “Super Woman”), if we choose to be.  We all can develop “powers far beyond mortal men” … or at least most mortal men. 

To be honest, I think the bar for “Super” has been set very low in a lot of cases.  Don’t the people in your life deserve you being as Super as you can be?  Think about it !

I’m BAAAACK !

Wow, has it been a long time since I last posted to this blog.  Let me get you caught up on what has gone down in the past months ….

- I started WheelDoggy.com, “the leading marketplace for local services”TM.  Right now we are serving just CT as the marketing and other startup challenges are worked out but we should be rolling out to other parts of the USA in the coming months.  If you have not yet signed up, now is the time !  (And there is a free trial so it won’t cost you anything to try it.)

- From Jul 2010 to Jun2011, I was the District 53 Governor for Toastmasters.  This covered all Toastmasters clubs in CT, Western MA and Eastern NY state (north of Westchester County) and it was an incredible experience.  I had two super Lt.Governors, Richard Peck and Jeff Sobel, and I would not have been able to do it without them.  In July 2011 I turned the district over to Richard Peck and his team … and from what I can see they are doing well !

- In January 2011, I entered the “Goofy Challenge” as part of the DisneyWorld Marathon weekend.  The Goofy Challenge is completing the Disney Half Marathon on Saturday and then the FULL Marathon on Sunday.  How did I do?  Well, it is kind of a long story, but I finished the Half Marathon within the required time and started the FULL marathon (not really expecting to be able to finish it).  I took it slow (mostly walking) and was comfortably in front of the “cutoff pacer” for most of the race.  Right before mile 18, at the water stop (where I would usually rest and drink some water) I began to see a huge crowd of people SPRINTING past me.  The cutoff pacer went by, but I wasn’t too concerned since I could not see the mile 18 marker from where I was and figured they would not spring forever so I would be able to catch up quickly.  Unfortunately, I turned the corner to see the mile 18 marker and two police cars blocking the road.  A third state police cruiser pulled in front of me just as I was about to cross the 18 mile mark while another officer said “Your race is done.  Get on the bus.  It will take you to the finish line.”…. of course it did not end there (but I will save the rest for another post … stay tuned to hear about the “Cop who blocked out the sun” and “Dave’s run for freedom” !

- Finally, I lost some weight.  Over 50 lbs. to be more exact.  It was done through a series of small changes and, surprisingly, not as much running as you would imagine (especially given my story about the Goofy Challenge).  I am writing a book about what I’ve learned and it should be available soon.  (Another reason to stay tuned to this blog!)

- I have also been doing more public speaking.  Since I am no longer the District 53 Governor, I wanted to expand my speaking opportunities so I have begun developing my paid speaking business around “How Your Mind Works”.  In the past years, I have studied NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP), Hypnosis and many of the leading Performance Psychologists and have developed an expertise in this area.  My first (demo) video will be a speech about how I used my mind to lose weight (related to the book I’m writing too).  Right now I am “fine-tuning it” and plan to have a video up in the next month or so.  I am also augmenting the weight loss speech with information on conditioning your mind for success to create a full day workshop (tentatively titled “The Mindset Advantage Program (MAP)”.

If you would like to hire me to speak, just send me an email at dave at dmarkwheeler dot com and I can give you more information.

It has been a busy year … and there is more to come !

Leave your questions and ideas in the comment section below !

d.Mark “Dave” Wheeler

Peek-a-boo Thinking

Do you remember playing “Peek-a-boo” with a little child?

You would hide your face, the child would think that you are gone and when you reveal your face … “Peek-a-boo !” … The child flashes a huge smile. For the child, it was like you were gone forever… and then came back.

Now, what if you could “Play Peek-a-boo”… throughout your life? With every material thing you have accumulated? With all your closest friends and relatives?

Imagine that, at some point, we will all die. The odds are that your parents will die before you do. Kind of depressing, right?

Imagine that the brand new car that own (or want to own) will eventually rust out, break down and need to be traded in or repaired. At the very least, it won’t be the nice car that it is right now. Also kind of a downer, right?

Peek-a-boo !
But they are not gone. You are alive and so are your loved ones. Your car has not yet aged. Things are pretty good. Doesn’t that cycle of imagining the inevitable future make you appreciate the present even more?

Buddhist philosophy touches upon a concept called “impermanence”. Their approach is to acknowledge that all things change (they are “not permanent”) and that we should appreciate what we have in the present.

The purpose of contemplating impermance, death and unsatisfactory experiences isn’t to become depressed and have the joy taken out of life. Rather, the purpose is to rid ourselves of attachment and false expectations. If we become emotionally afraid or depressed when thinking about these things, then we are not contemplating them correctly. Meditating on these subjects should make our minds calm and lucid because it decreases our clinging attachment and the confusion that our attachment causes in our lives.”
- From “Buddhism for Beginners” by Thubten Chodron

Peek-a-Buddha…

If you truly appreciated what you have in the present, would you do something different? Would you call your Mom more often? And maybe let go of some of the “little annoyances” in your everyday life?

Peek-a-boo… I see you !
What if you were able to … Open your eyes to the wonderful world you are living in and appreciate what you have.

It won’t be here forever… so make the best of today !

d.Mark “Dave” Wheeler

Credits:
Peek-a-boo picture found here.
Buddha picture found here.

New Business alert…

While I still have a keen interest in my real estate investment business, I have begun to create an internet-based service business. I can’t say too much about it yet, but I’m hoping to have it into beta testing in September.

What made me announce it today?
Seth Godin had a blog post today about “Training Your Customers” which resonated with a portion of the philosophy that I will be using for the new business.

What “philosophy”?
My overall premise for the business is that the state of customer service is generally dismal in the United States. (I can’t speak definitively about other countries, but I suspect that many are in a similar boat.) Given this very low “bar” for customer service, it makes sense that there could be a HUGE competitive advantage to a company that is able to provide superior customer service on a consistent basis. Not that it will be easy… but there is certainly a window of opportunity.

How does that relate to “training customers”?
Customer service is essentially a matter of expectations and the concept of “training customers” can be a very useful tool for setting and maintaining those expectations. It is also important for a business to set standards both for workers AND customers. If someone is going to be a customer of ours (and receive our utmost effort and service) we will demand a civilized interaction and no abuse of the workers will be allowed. Other companies may train their customers to expect cheap prices (as a trade-off for incredibly poor customer service) but we will strive for competitive prices … and incredibly good customer service.

As Seth Godin calls it, we will “train” our customers … so that we can provide them with the best customer service in the world. Customer Service is not about performing miracles… it is about setting, meeting and then exceeding expectations along parameters that are important to the customer.

Would like to work for a company like this?
Well, you won’t be able to … because all the work will be done by contractors who will be in business for themselves. On the other hand, if you want to go into business for yourself (and gain the benefits that come with business ownership) then you should stay tuned to this blog for more information.

Warning…
This work won’t be “easy” since for many people, providing top customer service is an unnatural act. On the other hand, we will provide training and, if you are motivated to succeed, we will help you develop your customer service skills as well as your business management skills.

It is going to be an exciting 2010 and I’m looking forward to a fun ride !

d.Mark “Dave” Wheeler

The end of civilization as we know it?

When I saw this product, I immediately thought, “I can imagine people spending hours upon hours using it”… but then I thought about how isolated it would make everyone.

As it is right now, many people are in “their own little world” and rarely interact with people in public places. With this “feedbag for the eyes” as it was called online, we will be even more isolated.

What is next? Personal travel tents so other people won’t even be able to see you?

Not sure why this hits a nerve with me, but I felt I should pass it along. What do you think?

Leave a comment below…

d.Mark “Dave” Wheeler

If not now, when?

You may have noticed a gap in my posts to this blog….

I’m starting to notice that “Procrastination is not a strategy”.

… or at least it is not a good one.

Now is better than later. A definite later is better than an indefinite later (which means “never”). The longer the later, the less likely it is to occur.

The good news?

There is always something you can do NOW for any goal you might have. (Planning counts.) Planning also helps you break down the goal into smaller tasks that can be started right now.

If not now, when?

Start in 2010!

d.Mark “Dave” Wheeler

The Importance of Attitude…

One of my favorite athletes is Chrissie Wellington.

Not because she has won the Ironman World Championship multiple time but rather because of the attitude she brings to the effort.

She is know for her smile. How many people do you know who are known for their smile?

Below is a video about her latest victory at the Kansas Half Ironman in June 2010.

If she can smile after swimming over a mile, biking 56 miles and running a half marathon … why are you so serious all the time? And she still has that smile when she does TWICE those distances in FULL Ironman races.

If you ever see me without a smile… pull a “Chrissie Wellington” and give me one of yours !

I will be sure to do the same for you !

d.Mark “Dave” Wheeler