How To “5Star Goal Setting & Getting”

5 star Goal Setting and GettingI wrote an article recently about “5 Star Goal Setting & Getting” as a guest blogger over on (check it out) but I reserved the ideas that follow for my own readers.  Take a look at the ideas below and leave a comment to tell me if you think they will take your goal setting (and getting) to a whole new level !

1) Start small when Goal Setting.

It is more important to develop the habit of goal setting and getting than it is to go for the biggest goal you can imagine.  Certainly there is some excitement when you “reach for the brass ring” but setting and achieving goals will give you the confidence to actually tackle your larger goals.

In addition, smaller goals can lead to bigger goals.  You might find that once you meet a certain goal that the larger goal no longer excites you and you can make adjustments along the way.

2) Grow your goals.

Build on your successes and learn from your failures.  As you strive to expand your goals, the skills you learn on smaller goals will help you on the way to bigger and bigger goals.

3) Celebrate and enjoy your success.

Goal setting adds a clear cut sense of a black and white to what is usually a long road of gray.  Life is a journey and we often forget to celebrate our accomplishments when we are caught up in the process and focused on the goal on the horizon.

Finally, rely on motivation, not self-discipline.

A good goal is exciting when you set it.  You can envision it happening and it fills you with anticipation of its completion.  The problem is most people do not hold themselves to that standard of motivation and they set goals that do not get them excited.

Think about it …

If your goal does not motivate you now, how likely is it that your motivation is going to carry you all the way to completion?  Self-discipline is a wonderful thing, but it is a limited resource and if you start using it up right from the start, there won’t be enough “gas in the tank” to get you to your destination.  Save your self-discipline for the times along the way when you encounter stumbling blocks or obstacles and have to put in an extra effort.

Set your first goal … and go for it !

Goal Setting Bonus !

As an added bonus, I’ve created a downloadable free pdf 5 Star-GoalSetting-handout that I use for my 5Star Goal Setting & Getting workshops.  (Right-click highlighted text in the previous sentence and select “Save As” to download the pdf worksheet to your computer).  If you want to learn more about what each star represents, be sure to read my guest blogger article over at



Wow, has it been a long time since I last posted to this blog.  Let me get you caught up on what has gone down in the past months ….

- I started, “the leading marketplace for local services”TM.  Right now we are serving just CT as the marketing and other startup challenges are worked out but we should be rolling out to other parts of the USA in the coming months.  If you have not yet signed up, now is the time !  (And there is a free trial so it won’t cost you anything to try it.)

- From Jul 2010 to Jun2011, I was the District 53 Governor for Toastmasters.  This covered all Toastmasters clubs in CT, Western MA and Eastern NY state (north of Westchester County) and it was an incredible experience.  I had two super Lt.Governors, Richard Peck and Jeff Sobel, and I would not have been able to do it without them.  In July 2011 I turned the district over to Richard Peck and his team … and from what I can see they are doing well !

- In January 2011, I entered the “Goofy Challenge” as part of the DisneyWorld Marathon weekend.  The Goofy Challenge is completing the Disney Half Marathon on Saturday and then the FULL Marathon on Sunday.  How did I do?  Well, it is kind of a long story, but I finished the Half Marathon within the required time and started the FULL marathon (not really expecting to be able to finish it).  I took it slow (mostly walking) and was comfortably in front of the “cutoff pacer” for most of the race.  Right before mile 18, at the water stop (where I would usually rest and drink some water) I began to see a huge crowd of people SPRINTING past me.  The cutoff pacer went by, but I wasn’t too concerned since I could not see the mile 18 marker from where I was and figured they would not spring forever so I would be able to catch up quickly.  Unfortunately, I turned the corner to see the mile 18 marker and two police cars blocking the road.  A third state police cruiser pulled in front of me just as I was about to cross the 18 mile mark while another officer said “Your race is done.  Get on the bus.  It will take you to the finish line.”…. of course it did not end there (but I will save the rest for another post … stay tuned to hear about the “Cop who blocked out the sun” and “Dave’s run for freedom” !

- Finally, I lost some weight.  Over 50 lbs. to be more exact.  It was done through a series of small changes and, surprisingly, not as much running as you would imagine (especially given my story about the Goofy Challenge).  I am writing a book about what I’ve learned and it should be available soon.  (Another reason to stay tuned to this blog!)

- I have also been doing more public speaking.  Since I am no longer the District 53 Governor, I wanted to expand my speaking opportunities so I have begun developing my paid speaking business around “How Your Mind Works”.  In the past years, I have studied NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP), Hypnosis and many of the leading Performance Psychologists and have developed an expertise in this area.  My first (demo) video will be a speech about how I used my mind to lose weight (related to the book I’m writing too).  Right now I am “fine-tuning it” and plan to have a video up in the next month or so.  I am also augmenting the weight loss speech with information on conditioning your mind for success to create a full day workshop (tentatively titled “The Mindset Advantage Program (MAP)”.

If you would like to hire me to speak, just send me an email at dave at dmarkwheeler dot com and I can give you more information.

It has been a busy year … and there is more to come !

Leave your questions and ideas in the comment section below !

d.Mark “Dave” Wheeler