How To “5Star Goal Setting & Getting”

5 star Goal Setting and GettingI wrote an article recently about “5 Star Goal Setting & Getting” as a guest blogger over on gps-SpeakerMarketing.com (check it out) but I reserved the ideas that follow for my own readers.  Take a look at the ideas below and leave a comment to tell me if you think they will take your goal setting (and getting) to a whole new level !

1) Start small when Goal Setting.

It is more important to develop the habit of goal setting and getting than it is to go for the biggest goal you can imagine.  Certainly there is some excitement when you “reach for the brass ring” but setting and achieving goals will give you the confidence to actually tackle your larger goals.

In addition, smaller goals can lead to bigger goals.  You might find that once you meet a certain goal that the larger goal no longer excites you and you can make adjustments along the way.

2) Grow your goals.

Build on your successes and learn from your failures.  As you strive to expand your goals, the skills you learn on smaller goals will help you on the way to bigger and bigger goals.

3) Celebrate and enjoy your success.

Goal setting adds a clear cut sense of a black and white to what is usually a long road of gray.  Life is a journey and we often forget to celebrate our accomplishments when we are caught up in the process and focused on the goal on the horizon.

Finally, rely on motivation, not self-discipline.

A good goal is exciting when you set it.  You can envision it happening and it fills you with anticipation of its completion.  The problem is most people do not hold themselves to that standard of motivation and they set goals that do not get them excited.

Think about it …

If your goal does not motivate you now, how likely is it that your motivation is going to carry you all the way to completion?  Self-discipline is a wonderful thing, but it is a limited resource and if you start using it up right from the start, there won’t be enough “gas in the tank” to get you to your destination.  Save your self-discipline for the times along the way when you encounter stumbling blocks or obstacles and have to put in an extra effort.

Set your first goal … and go for it !

Goal Setting Bonus !

As an added bonus, I’ve created a downloadable free pdf 5 Star-GoalSetting-handout that I use for my 5Star Goal Setting & Getting workshops.  (Right-click highlighted text in the previous sentence and select “Save As” to download the pdf worksheet to your computer).  If you want to learn more about what each star represents, be sure to read my guest blogger article over at gps-speakermarketing.com/goal-setting/.

 

How the Lottery Screws With Your Head

A lottery ticket reveals your
mental programming about money!

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Let’s face it.  Everyone expects to win the grand prize when they purchase a lottery ticket… contrary to the statistics that say you are more likely to be hit by a bus, but our general lack of understanding when it comes to reality is a story for another article.

We all have mental programming that creates our attitudes & beliefs about creating wealth in our lives.  Buying a lottery ticket and evaluating the stories in your head can reveal the inner workings of your mind and the ways that it has been programmed.

What happens in your head when you buy a lottery ticket?

The first thing that happens is that your mind, both consciously and subconsciously, is that you start playing out scenarios of what you would do when you win based on the deep, ingrained mental programming you have accumulated over your life.  (Note that I said “when you win”, not “if you win”.  The mind only cares about the winning scenario at this point.)

Pretty much everyone’s “winning lottery scenario” falls into one of the following 3 categories…

(1) Let’s Buy Toys !
or the “YAY, I’m Rich! I can do anything!” scenario…

This involves speculation on all the great things that you can buy… new, fancy cars, boats, planes (?), new clothes, a big house, lavish parties, trips to exotic locations and much, much more.  Since a lottery win is so far beyond most people’s current level of spending it seems like anything is possible.  But do you notice something about this fantasy?  All the money is going OUT of the winner’s pocket once they win.

What does this reveal about your mental programming about wealth?

First, the odds are you are probably poor or lower middle class.  Even if you aren’t now, you will probably end up that way because of your spending habits.  Why?  Because you spend money on things that go down in value or that have no intrinsic (built-in) value.

It is also likely that you buy more than a few lottery tickets per year since you feel the chances of you building a large fortune from scratch

(2)  Give it away !
or the “Share the Wealth” scenario

You imagine how much you will give to charities, what you might buy for your friends and your family and how grateful they will be for being a part of your windfall.

What does this reveal about your mental programming about wealth?

This type of scenario shows that, at some level, you feel that you don’t deserve to be wealthy.  You probably apply this same thinking to other areas of your life to make sure that you do not get too far ahead of your peer group in terms of wealth.  In other words, you hold yourself back to the level of your current status where you are comfortable and people are comfortable with you.

Can you break out of this thinking?  Sure, but it will take a conscious decision to recognize who is honestly would support your increased wealth and who would rather you were more like them.

Alternatively, you may think that you (or “life in general”) should be “fair” and if you have good luck, then you need to spread it around as much as possible.  There is probably a good bit of “guilt programming” built in there too saying that if you have more than others than you should feel guilty about it.  (Recognize any religious overtones here?)

Again, you can break out of this thinking by recognizing that it shows up in your mind and replacing it with more productive thoughts such as “I deserve to be wealthy and by learning the mental techniques I can teach others how to bring themselves up to my level instead of giving them crumbs from my plate.”  It is the old story, “Give a man a fish, you feed him for a day.  Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”

(3) Invest in … 
or the “More of what I’m already doing” scenario.

Since you already understand how to grow your wealth, you see a lottery win as something different from most people.  You see it as simply accelerating your current strategy for wealth creation.  Because of this, you rarely buy a lottery ticket (probably less than one a year) and you do it for the entertainment value without worrying about whether or not you will eventually accumulate millions.

Perhaps you buy a ticket when there is an especially large jackpot that catches your attention.  Or maybe you are facing challenges to your plan for wealth accumulation and you feel that a lottery win would help smooth over some of life’s rough patches.

Unfortunately, you eventually realize that money is not the answer to your problems.  More money brings different problems … but that’s OK since it is part of the growth process of life.  Plus, wouldn’t you rather have the problem of managing millions of dollars instead of scraping by to pay your bills each month?

What does this mean for your mental programming towards wealth?

Since most people are a mix of the three responses shown above, it is easy to see how we are all programmed to think certain ways about money.  Your primary response to your lottery win scenario tells you about how your react to money in all areas of your life because the subconscious programming in your mind doesn’t turn off.  It is there whenever you encounter an opportunity to make money or an opportunity to spend or waste money.  If you bring your programming into your conscious mind, you can begin to make changes and when you change your mental programming for wealth, you will notice more opportunities for wealth building as well as ways you can hold onto more of what you already have.

Is there a little-known “4th Scenario”?

Losing Lottery Ticket - Mental Programming 4 WealthAt this point you are probably wondering what I thought of when I got the lottery ticket shown in the photo on this page, right?  Well, I can honestly say that I thought of all three scenarios.  I would probably get a new car (since I am overdue for an upgrade) and most of the money would go towards real estate purchases (NYC brownstone, ski lodge).  It would also help fund my charity which will help teach wealth mentality to more people.

I also created the “4th Scenario” where I bought a lottery ticket (over $130 million grand prize), checked the numbers after the drawing (I lost, of course) and then I wrote an article about it so that the ticket can become a business expense.  :))

What’s your mental programming towards wealth?

Where do you fit?  What stories do you create in your mind when you buy a lottery ticket?  Leave a reply in the comment section below and tell us what you found out about your own mental programming for wealth !

 

“The Epidemic of Failure” speech

The video below is dMark “Dave” Wheeler’s 2013 contest speech titled “The Epidemic of Failure”.  Please your comments and feedback below !

What is the Epidemic of Failure?

 

 

What does Failure mean to you?

Assuming you have watched the Epidemic of Failure video, the question you might be thinking is “What failures do I have in my past that I can learn from?” or “Am I failing enough right now to make progress toward my dreams?”  Either way, an intimate understanding of what you consider failure vs. what you consider “learning experiences” will greatly affect how you frame both past and future events in your life.

 

Are you facing your own Epidemic of Failure?

Do you have a story about failure? Perhaps one that relates to one of the ideas presented by dMark “Dave” Wheeler?

 

Our favorite “epidemic of failure” quote…

Success as the ability to go from failure to failure … without losing your enthusiasm.      - Winston Churchill

 

Did you learn?

We must Keep Failing.  Encourage Failure in others, especially your loved ones.

Fail Often … so you are less sensitive to it and can learn from every failure.

Fail Fast… so the sting won’t last and you can bound back faster.

and Fail Small … so you can make small adjustments before the stakes get large.

 

Additional Reading on the Mindset of Failure…

“Fail Forward by John Maxwell”

 

Comments Appreciated !

Please leave your “Epidemic of Failure” comments below so that Dave and others can learn from your experiences !

 

What is Life’s Meaning?

When was the last time you thought about Life’s Meaning?

Have you ever asked yourself one or all of the following questions?
What is Life all About?
What is My Life going to mean when it is done?
What is Important in Life?
In other words, What is Life’s Meaning… for you?.

Very few people take the time to think about the purpose of life on a regular basis but those that do are able to achieve much more than you can even imagine.

Wikipedia says

embracing ikigai”, or ” the reason for being/reason for getting out of bed”…

Ikigai is the idea that life is filled with purpose is one worth living and there is always a reason to get up in the morning. The Fraternal Order of Moai (known as Ipu Ki) is the Polynesian tradition of forming a social network and creating safety nets through friendships so that people can feel they have something or in this case somebody to fall back upon if something were to go wrong.

What is your “reason for getting out of bed”?

The book by Dan Buettner The Blue Zones: Lessons for Living for Living Longer from People Who have Lived the Longest states that people who live longer, stronger lives have a stronger sense of ikigai.  When people retire, it’s a proven fact that the ones that do not have something to do that is important to them are the first ones who die.  Research shows that making the best of life and living it to the fullest isn’t about genetics at all, it’s what you make if it each and every day!

Are you making “A Great Life” every day?

Off the coast of Greece there is a small island called Icaria.  The residents who live there are known to be the longest living in perhaps the entire world.  Many of which do not know actually how old they are due to the fact that they don’t keep track of time, they don’t wear watches, in fact the clocks in their homes never say the correct time.  They get up when they want to, eat when they want to, are more sexually active through their later years in life, have more sense of community and spend more time being social….is that the key to a meaningful life?

Something to think about !

 

 

The Importance of Attitude…

One of my favorite athletes is Chrissie Wellington.

Not because she has won the Ironman World Championship multiple time but rather because of the attitude she brings to the effort.

She is know for her smile. How many people do you know who are known for their smile?

Below is a video about her latest victory at the Kansas Half Ironman in June 2010.

If she can smile after swimming over a mile, biking 56 miles and running a half marathon … why are you so serious all the time? And she still has that smile when she does TWICE those distances in FULL Ironman races.

If you ever see me without a smile… pull a “Chrissie Wellington” and give me one of yours !

I will be sure to do the same for you !

d.Mark “Dave” Wheeler